It's the LOOOOVEEEE Month :)

It’s February and you know what that means? chalky heart candies with messages on them like “I wuv u”, heart shaped cards, over sized boxes of chocolate, and red decorations everywhere! Yes ,Valentine’s day is coming up, which makes February the month of Love. My eyes will be tired of seeing red again this time of the year. But hey , I'm not complaining. I love Valentines day.

But for me love shouldn't be celebrated only on a day in February, love should be celebrated everyday of the year. Love and all its complexities is everywhere around us : in our homes, workplace, even the streets we live in. Love exists between families, brothers , sisters, friends , neighbors , and of course between couples.

So come on , I encourage everyone to celebrate love, not only on the 14th but everyday. Life is short and we can only live each day once. Go out there, hug a friend, be kind to a stranger, call your family, kiss someone passionately. In any form and in any way you can, show love. Because after all , LOVE is what makes the world go round .

Just my two cents...xoxo

falling in love and letting go...

     

Aaaaah LOVE…I know , I know it’s way too far from Valentines day but isn’t love a universal thing that exists all year round? Such a strong powerful word,easily felt yet difficult to comprehend. It could hit us in  many ways, different forms , at different times and circumstances. Love has been described in a lot of  ways, mostly feelings of euphoria and grandeur. But with love comes the bittersweet  shadow of  pain, hurt and tears.

Falling in love may sound easy but really hard to do. The greatest irony of  love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go. We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves. When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new  love, you view the past as a teacher . In the game of  love, it doesn’t really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go. You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if  his or her happiness means that you’re not part of it. Everything happens for the best. Love strives in hurting. Yes it does…

If you don’t get hurt, you don’t learn how to love. Love is like a knife.(cheesy huh?) It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always lasts for a lifetime. Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end.

Loving people means giving them the freedom to choose what they want to be  and where they choose to be.  Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way,  whether it leads towards you or away from you. Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire and tear you apart. Only love can make you cry and only love knows why.If you’re not ready to cry, if you’re not ready to take the risk, If you’re not ready to feel the pain, then you’re not ready to fall in love.

You fall for someone once in a while for a reason...it isn't just random... most of the time, that      person, or at least that relationship, teaches something: to be trusting, to not be trusting, to be loyal, to be caring, to let go, to hold on, to move on, to speak out, to forget, to remember, to hurt and to  heal...or, if you are lucky, to love... and the things we take from those relationships are part of         what makes them all worth while... So let your heart skip a beat, let a swarm of butterflies fly into your stomach, let yourself feel totally and utterly happy.

At least for a moment--- you will LiVe ,  you will maybe LoVe,  and you will  LeaRN…

Life is a never ending journey, a vast world of opportunities, of circumstances.. favorable or not ,we all have to go through it…it’s all a part of the journey we call LIFE.

Just my two cents…xoxo 

Conditional...Unconditional

There are times when we get discouraged by things that happen and by people around us. Times when we want to give up on someone just because. Times when we hate ourselves for hating others. Times when we stop loving because people fall short of our expectations.

To love without asking why or how, to love without setting any limit ,Is this how we love? Or is our love defined by how much we gain or how much someone makes us happy? I believe we should love a person not because of anything else but simply because we love him, nothing more… nothing less. Conditional love is when we begin to put a price tag on someone. When that person falls below certain limits then he wouldn’t get as much attention and love that he would have been given had he been more qualified.

Love doesn’t measure, weigh or gauge a person ,love just loves .it is the very basic yet the most complicated  formula in the success of any relationship. To love unconditionally is to love beyond the bounds of what limits us, race and creed, wealth and poverty, sickness and health and suffering and happiness. Love knows no bounds and only when we learn how to conquer the limits of what keeps us away from others can love take on a new meaning. One that doesn’t ask the why's or hows. One that simply believes… one that simply loves...

just my two cents...xoxo

Love yourself

i hated it. i hated hearing this so much, i forgot what it meant.

thank you, babe for setting me back on track, for confirming that this was something i really needed to take seriously. It surprised me to think that somehow, i managed to ignore the real meaning of loving your - SELF. too many people are allowed the power to manipulate this part of us that is the point of life, after all. how does it happen?

selfish, egoistic, self-glorifying. words all too commonly designed to hit you where pushing & pulling never stops until it hurts. i’ve been a bitch for what i do, a bitch for what i don’t do, and when i happen to be learning the ropes from in-between, well then i’m just a bitch for not knowing which direction to go, or what the hell i want to do.

well, apparently, things could get worse. because life becomes a pain when you start looking at things from ‘their’ point of view.

if this happens to you, you’ll find that you’re scared to be good at what you love most. you’re scared to be good to WHOM you love the most. unless you’ve got some concept of hope and manage to get sense knocked into your head by some force of nature that pulls you back to what you know, then you’ll probably never stop wondering why you’re not the same. why crashing feels so familiar to you, why understanding melancholy is too easy to do, why the existence of Love beyond science seems harder to prove. 

"Love yourself" is not a command to throw away like a song you’re done with after playing it in your head for so long… it’s not something you change your mind about if people begin to label it as something it isn’t made to be. 

Loving yourself is believing that it is okay to like the great and crazy things others like about you, or that you are someone who has friends who love you, even if you don’t know why. No one is perfect, and no one should feel, or be, alone.

It’s knowing that it is okay to want to be one of the best, if not just better, at that thing you do, JUST BECAUSE. it is happier to dwell on the good things to know what to make of the bad. shoot for the moon.

it is okay to jump at opportunities, because it is okay to be grateful and it is okay, if not better, to make use of what you have. there is always, ALWAYS, a reason for everything.

if you have a life that makes you want to bounce all the blessings back, it is okay to know in your heart that, one day, you will give everything back.

no one should ever have the power to pressure you to do, or be, something that you aren’t ready - nor made - to do, or be.

there is a bigger picture in the world for each one of us & we are all specks of dust in the end. what you do with your life now can outlast you later on.

it is also okay to smile (maybe even so randomly, you’d seem to be on E) — it is okay to admit you just honestly like being in this twisted world, no matter how cruel, judgemental, angry, or dangerous it can be. 

it took me 3 years of gradually losing that strength. a year and a half to slowly gain it back, and 5 months to finally feel it creeping back into me.

so you think you love yourself. but still somewhat believe that all the countless times you fucked up serve as an estimate of who you are in all your years of being… if you think you do love yourself, but fail to ignore the things that you know exist to try and screw you over… then please, love yourself a little bit more. Messing up is NOT equivalent to BEING all messed up. you have every right and reason to LOVE, EVEN if you don’t know why.

Loving that one person, loving anyone, and especially loving yourself, is not anything that LOVE is NOT. 

and you know what? if you find Love, there’s your God.